There is a place where the mind is renewed. There is a journey that allows this to happen. You might need to control some of your thoughts along the way but…. thinking that you controlling your thoughts is the way and only way is not the way….
You will have to pursue changing the way you see things, view things, that is true repentance and it is a necessary part of the recipe.
Focusing on a Good and Loving Father is another part of the recipe, as is prayer, quieting you…yourself, chewing on scriptural concepts, especially on surrendering oneself and forgiveness. Worship of several kinds is one of the main ingredients. You might even have to ask for forgiveness from some others. Becoming generous is another ingredient, throw in lots of that…
Relationships, oh my, relationships with other pilgrims or seekers…. yeah that is like salt in the ingredient or spices. Can’t have a recipe without those things.
There is some experiences involved, they are mile markers along the road and good ones too because they tell you, you are in fact on the right road. Without experiences that come from outside of you, the road you are on is probably the one where its only about you doing everything. It’s the very wrong road.
When the right kind of experiences happen you might not be able to explain exactly how or what happened but….you will be in a different place forever more and you won’t feel a need to defend the process and might even feel inspired, maybe very inspired to point others in the paths you just encountered.